Monday, February 28, 2011

How sex offender laws hurt good people

Original Article: http://www.helium.com/items/1800667-how-sex-offender-laws-hurt-good-people

by Patrick Sills

April 10, 2010

In the summer of 1976, I experienced a rite of passage. I was 16 years old. And no, this had nothing to do with becoming a licensed driver. Nevertheless, it would change my life forever. I lost my virginity. At long last, 
I didn’t feel alone among my peers. Finally, I knew what all the fuss was about. Well, at least the alleged fuss.

My first partner was a girl two years my senior, and we met on a camping trip a few weeks earlier. My parents were very liberal and had no problem with it. Our relationship was short-lived; as are many adolescent pairing

But the point is as follows: If this had happened today and the parents objected, my first girlfriend would very likely be a registered sex offender because I was a minor in the eyes of the law. On the other hand, she was 18.

This is in no way suggesting that minors should engage in sexual relations, but anyone who isn’t living in a cave should know that it happens every day. Most of the parents of today’s teens were guilty of the same actions in their youth. It’s a fact.

However, with today’s Sex Offender Registry, anyone who has reached 18 in many states who has sex with anyone under that age can be tried and convicted of statutory rape. And guess what? Once this is on your record, you are required to register as a sex offender!

Now, answer this question: how many people over 18 have girlfriends or boyfriends that are 16 or 17 as opposed to 18; especially if only 2 or 3 years separates them in age? Is it fair that the older individuals in these couples should have to have their name desecrated for life by such ridiculous policies?

How about this hypothetical scenario? A man is driving his car down the highway in a remote area. He’s had to urinate for the past 15 minutes and his bladder is beginning to feel very uncomfortable. However, he discovers that the nearest town or rest area is 37 miles away. He can no longer hold back the urge, so he pulls over to the side of the road and at long last relieves himself.

Without warning, and seemingly out of nowhere, another car crosses his path. A woman is driving with a small daughter. She sees what is happening, and is disgusted. She copies the man’s license plate number and calls the police. Within minutes, he is picked up, arrested, and charged with indecent exposure.

If a harsh judge follows the letter of the law, there will be no plea bargain down to disorderly conduct, and the man will be convicted of the previously-mentioned
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On a Personal Note

Thanks for the opportunity to express my thoughts regarding the issue of citizens’ rights, particularly addressing certain sex offenders’ crimes that do not fit the devastating, inequitable and endless punishment given.


As you know, many young men and women lives across the nation are being destroyed by incarceration, life-time registry and restrictive laws that do more harm than good. For those individuals, there is no second chance.

Below is a personal letter to President Obama:
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“Dear President Obama,

I truly agree with your sentiments that individuals, such as ex-felons, should be able to receive a second chance at life. Since we all know that one can veer off that path of life and travel along rough, rocky terrain, sometimes running off and ending up in some ditch. We all have made our fill of mistakes and sometimes those held a costly consequence that changed life forever. So we lived through it, trying harder to make things right with family, friends and those around us, but what about those who aren’t able to make things right even if they tried…because they’re labeled as too dirty, a leper, a person who is rejected from society and home.

But what if they’re a seventeen year old and had sex with a fifteen year old, consensual at that? Or they’re a teen that had gotten so enraged after a breakup that he sent out naked pictures of his girlfriend on his cell phone or email? Or an individual urinates where someone just happens to see them?

All are wrong and a travesty but do they deserve the life of no second chance with a registry that ends all. They are labeled, no jobs, no where to live…they have been deemed a menace to society, a plague. These certain circumstances, and many other situations similar to these, I believe still deserve a second change.

Fourteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution

Section 1. All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

After my son’s early release and two years of prison, I thought I had handled that fact graciously knowing after serving his time he would be able to get that fresh start, that second chance. He was an exemplary inmate, GED, college courses and vocational classes. Little did I know that a second chance on the outside was the farthest from the truth? He now struggles and lives in a trailer park sharing a trailer with another and surrounded by others in the same rocking boat, one to float endlessly in shark infested waters. I see him little because of probation requirements (he couldn’t live with us because we were 800 feet near a school). My family is afraid of what would happen to them if he lived with them…vigilantism. My son has no other place to stay since others condemn him of his crime that is screamed from the highest rooftop. Sex offender, sex offender!

Not all sex offenders are pedophiles or predators but some are simply young kids that make one stupid and rash decision that eventually changes everything, and they have no idea what they’ve done until their life is never their own. Exactly, where is that second chance for those sex-offenders who are lumped together with pedophiles and predators? Now, it makes me sick to think of my son’s future and many like him that are on the registry and many with no second chance…ever. I am asking you as a mother and as another concerned citizen of the United States that these laws are looked at again and taken into serious consideration in what they are doing to the Constitution of the United States, not for sex offenders in general but the future rights of every citizen, before anymore are put into effect. They unjustly strip an offender of their rights and place them in a guillotine that can be easily set off by anyone and at anytime. Where is the second chance for ex-sex offenders in the present, pending and future laws?”
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What truly saddens me is the weakness and deterioration of what the sex offense issue is doing to our once, great nation. Across Europe, others are seeing the injustice and disregard of rights, but we ignore this problem and it makes me wonder where humanity is heading….

We have become a hysterical society in which our latest witch-hunt is a sex offender--no matter his/her crime.

Below is a email sent from a foreign advocate to a father of a sex offender:
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“The tragic story of your son's death is just so sad that it's difficult to explain how. It was very hard to read your letters. It seems almost unbelievable that this can take place in a democracy! From our point of view, there is no justice in this. Not in any way: not for you, your son, the former girl friend – or even the state.

It is an abusive legal system. It seems barbaric. And we are so very sorry that this takes place. That's why it's so important for us to try to neutralize the debate with this…, hopefully making some changes. ….. to show the every day life of the sex offenders, trying to show how they keep on being punished, even after served prison time…..But we will for sure tell the story of the injustice that your son has been exposed to.”
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I appreciate everyone's commitment and backing to protect everyone's civil rights, plainly as noted in the Constitution of the United States and is presupposed, giving ALL men are “life, liberty and pursuit of happiness.”